You’re a Fraud. Embrace It.

Am I a fraud?
Sure. Sometimes, maybe alot of times. And so are you.

But here’s the truth nobody wants to say out loud:
Feeling like a fraud isn’t a disorder, it’s part of being alive.

People love to throw around terms like imposter syndrome, as if naming it will fix it.
But that’s usually just people trying to “evolve” into something they’re not yet.
They’re climbing a status ladder and shocked to feel wobbly.

But what if you weren’t climbing anything?
What if you’ve felt like a fraud since you were old enough to think?
What if your whole childhood was role-play and masking and reading rooms to survive?
What then?

I’ve met countless intelligent people who intellectualize this to death.
They chase every theory, every modality, every spiritual hack,
until they break under the weight of trying to prove they’re “real.”

My response is simple:

So what?
You’re a fucking fraud.
Join the club.

Fraudulence is as universal as anxiety.
And just like anxiety, the goal isn’t to cure it,
it’s to stop letting it run your life.

You want advice? Here it is:

Use it.

If you need to be the polished professional at work - play the role.
If you need to be the bitch on the phone to get your refund - play the role.
If you need to stand up to your abusive partner even when your spine is shaking - play the role.

That’s not dishonesty.
That’s adaptability.

The real irony?
People who obsess over being “phony” completely overlook the moments where they are authentic.
They’re so convinced something is broken in them that they can’t see the truth:

Your roles don’t make you fake.
They make you functional.
And embracing them is how you eventually feel real.

So yes, you’re a fraud.
And when you stop fighting that, you finally become something better:

A person who can move through the world without apologizing for existing.